Whether you are a first time mama or a 3 time mama, there is SO much information out there to read, so much to research throughout pregnancy, and also the opinions from those around you. If you haven’t noticed by now, people LOVE to talk about themselves and share their opinions or stories. Which, sometimes, is unwanted, in my opinion:). You (and your husband) need to feel empowered together to make the best decisions for you and your family. All the other “noise” coming from those around you, needs to be filtered through. I hope this post encourages you to empower yourself to filter other’s opinions and make the best decisions for you and your family.
Are you a people pleaser?
I know I am! It’s hard to want to please those around you and your husband at the same time. But why? Why do we feel the need to “please” those around us? Pleasing others will only make you unhappy. Trust me, it’s not worth it.
So, I encourage you to put the people pleasing behind you and focus on making sure you and your husband are on the same page with the decisions that need to be made. That’s what’s most important.
Don’t let someone else’s opinion change what YOU want!
If you have always envisioned the birth of your child a certain way, don’t let the opinions of a relative or what you read on a social media post, change your mind about it.
Sure, be polite and allow them to share their experience or opinion but don’t let them scare you from doing what YOU want to do. This is YOUR experience and this is how you have chosen to bring this little baby into the world. No one else’s opinions or scare tactics should be allowed.
Remember, this is your child (and your husband’s), not your relatives or your friend’s child. YOU get to make the decisions, not them.
Whatever decisions you need to make as parents, empower yourselves by doing the research for yourself to determine what you want for your child.
Doing your own research is the biggest piece of advice I could give to first time parents. Knowing that you researched and know what decisions you want to make for your child, definitely feels very empowering!
If you need some suggestions to start, check out my post below:)
What happens when you and your husband are at odds with decisions that you have to make?
I would encourage you to come to some kind of compromise.
For example, if you know that you want a home birth but your husband wants you to have a hospital birth then meet in the middle and try a birth center.
I know it can be scary for a lot of first time parents. There are so many decisions that you will have to be make. And it’s all up to you! However, if you can arm yourself with research and present it to your husband, maybe he will be more open to seeing things from your perspective.
Or, you will both be able to come to some sort of compromise.
Just remember that you both want what is best for your child.
Check out these posts, Top 3 Resources for Pregnancy and Beyond, or Our Son’s Birth Story, if you need some resources or want to read about our first son’s birth story!
Remember, you were chosen to be your child’s mama! You are capable to make the decisions that you need to make. Empower yourself by researching for yourself what YOU want.
Lastly, don’t let other people’s opinions change your mind and what you want. Stand firm, be strong, and be confident in your decisions.
Good luck, mama:)