Mamas, finding “me time” again after having kids is a challenge! Or better yet, figuring out how to have my “me time” and what to do kind of stresses me out. Can you relate? I’ve titled this post, “Motherhood-Me Time? How Do I Do This Again?” because in all honesty, it’s true! This is something I was not expecting entering motherhood. Now don’t get me wrong, I would not take back any part of becoming a mama. But, nothing can truly prepare you for it.
I wish someone told me when you enter into motherhood, your “me time” does not need to end!
Sure, it may look a little different or may need to do some revamping of what you do, but it does not need, nor should, come to a screeching end.
When I became a stay at home mama, I felt as though it was my job to put all my energy and time into my family, keeping the house clean, preparing meals, etc. thus foregoing my “me time” for the foreseeable future. However, it took me years to realize (and lots of encouragement from my husband/still struggle with this now) that I was still a woman who liked to do the things I used to prior to becoming a wife and mama. These are just titles I was able to add to my “resume”.
My considerate husband constantly offers to take care of our boys so that I can go do something for myself. For me, it’s so hard to find those things that I used to love to do and go do them now. Why is that? Do you struggle with this, mama?
Look, this motherhood journey was not something that was meant for us to do on our own. Be willing to humble yourself and allow your spouse and those around you to help you so you can continue to be the person you always were. Or, better yet, a better version of the old you with a little “me time” built in:)
Finding hobbies seems like a chore now.
Or, what once was a hobby now feels like a chore. For example, cooking. I used to enjoy cooking and baking and trying new recipes but now it just feels like a chore since I cook for my whole family and not just a single gal.
In saying this, it’s still important to find those things that interest you! Find time to go do them, spend time with friends without your husband and kids and let loose a little.
Yes, it may take some planning on your part. But just think how much better of a wife and mama you will be when you return home and have done something that you love to do, get in some good laughs, or just have some peace and quiet?!
28 “Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.” -Proverbs 31:28-29
How are we supposed to be the woman described in the above verse that the Lord calls us to be if we don’t take time to fill our own cups with our needs?
So mamas, I encourage you to find your favorite hobby or try something new, get out of the house and enjoy some “you time” once a week for a couple hours.
Good luck, mama:)