I have never been a touchy feely person for as long as I can remember. Needless to say, I valued my “personal space”. When you become a wife and then mama, there is officially no such thing as “personal space”. It took me a while to become ok with that but this is something I was not ready for when it came to motherhood. I titled this post, “Motherhood-Personal Space? What’s That?”, because if I am being honest, that “personal bubble” you once knew, no longer exists. Can you relate, mama?!
Now, I am not saying this is a bad thing but, if you are used to having your own space without kids on you all the time, this will take some time to adjust to the constant physical contact.
As humans, we are created for physical connection. Hugs, touching, kisses, and that’s what our kids want and need from us, mamas. Embrace it! I know I am still working on this but it definitely brings joy to my heart when my son just wants a hug and cuddle session:)
Give yourself some grace during this transition time. It’s ok to feel this way.
If you don’t struggle with having your personal space being invaded constantly, then I tip my hat to you! Keep doing what you’re doing!
For those of us that find this to be a struggle, I encourage you to embrace these moments.
Remember, our babies won’t be babies forever. Our kids will turn into teenagers and will eventually want less “cuddle time” with their mamas. This life is too short to not live in the moment and embrace the physical connection.
With all of that said, it’s OK to want a break from your kids and even your husband:)
Get out of the house and have some “you time” that involves personal space away from your family. I know from personal experience that I need this time to refocus to be a better mom and wife each day.
I still struggle with allowing myself to have some “me time”. Sometimes I feel as though I am being selfish with leaving our kids with my husband, even though he encourages me to go do something for myself! Can you relate, mama?
Why is it so hard for us, mamas, to take care of ourselves when we have a family?
For those of you who have never been told, it’s ok to ask for help, and it’s ok to want alone time.
Going into motherhood, this is something that I wish someone had told me. So, mamas, whether you are a new mama or a mama of three, IT’S OK TO WANT ALONE TIME AWAY FROM YOUR FAMILY.
You will need this time to become a better person, wife, and mama!
In motherhood, embrace the lack of personal space, cherish those moments, live in the moment, and then find something you enjoy doing just by yourself and go do it!
What do you say, mama? Do you struggle with this? Do you love your personal space being invaded all the time?;) How do you handle it?
In closing, remember the following words when you feel stressed out, lacking patience, frustrated, or any other emotion that your kids can make you feel. They are a GIFT from the Lord!
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.” -Psalm 127:3